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Thursday, October 23, 2014

You'll be there with bells on!

Grandma's High School graduation photo.
          The last time I saw Grandma was after Grandpa's funeral.  We all went over after the service to visit with her and share some 3 Musketeers.  She just woke up from a nap so she is a bit groggy for a while and takes several minutes of watching us, especially the nephews running around, to wake up.  Dad starts feeding her cut up Musketeers bars and that smile starts making a few appearances.  We begin talking with her about the nephews and their school and other small talk topics to give her a chance to fully awake.  Then as I show her my rings, she always loves looking at jewelry, she crooks her finger at me to come closer.  I don't know what she's up to so I bend closer and she still crooks her finger at me so I step closer still and next thing I know she's tickling me!  Even with Alzheimer's she remembers that I'm the ticklish one.  She tries tickling a few other people with some success but always looks back at me with her mischievous sparkle in her eyes and starts crooking her finger at me again.  I humor her and let her tickle me and now we're all laughing and joking around.  Grandma is laughing too, but that always leads to a coughing fit.  Coughs don't stop our fun, though, and we keep up the game of tickle wars, tickling each other, until it is time for her to line up for dinner.  As Dad wheels her away I chase after her to give her another goodbye hug and kiss, then run out one more time to get a quick picture of that smile.  I'm so glad we were all able to make one last happy memory together.  

Now go get Grandpa and tickle him until he laughs!  October 22, 2014


August 30, 2014
Married 1959.
The happy couple cutting the cake.
So much love and joy.

          I never knew it would mean so much to me for Grandma to get so excited about my wedding.

          You see, I hadn't planned on mentioning my engagement to her.  I hadn't even planned on her having any understanding of who I am beyond a smiling face happy to see her.  Grandma has dementia, that horrible brain-eating disease that slowly erases memories, usually starting with the newest ones.  You don’t remember how long it has been since you've seen a familiar face.  You don’t remember who these 20-somethings are claiming to be your grandchildren, because if you even have grandchildren, they’re still just little kids, not these full grown adults with kids of their own.  You hardly recognize your own kids because they, too, look much older than they should.  Your husband becomes the bossy man sharing your room that keeps chiding you for forgetting simple things you just can't recall. 

"Bossy" Grandpa and Dad playing a round of Scrabble. 2010
          You pack your bags, ready to go home, knowing this place isn't your home.  Instead, a stranger comes in to give you a bath and help you unpack; you can’t remember why and you’re not sure you should trust her.  Your son arrives and your bag is packed ready to go home; it’s dinnertime and a woman claims to be reminding you that this is your home now.  She never told you that before and now you’re confused.  Why is this home?  After dinner you wait for your son; he’s coming to visit today.  It says so on your calendar.  You’d better pack up so he can take you home.

Grandma with her mom, husband, two kids, son-in-law, and first grand-baby. 1983
          Your daughter arrives and she brought chocolates and her funny husband.  You are so happy to see them and to enjoy those chocolates.  They need to run out to the car to get something; they’ll be right back.  Your daughter arrives and she brought chocolates and her funny husband!  You are so happy to see them, but you can only eat a couple chocolates, you aren't very hungry.  The funny husband cracks jokes as he wheels you to your room.  Your daughter arrives!  Oh it’s been months since you've seen her.  Why hasn't she been coming with her husband to visit you?  You are so happy to see her again, finally!

          A doctor comes; you are in pain all the time.  You remember this because the pain never stops.  He gives you medicine to help.  You are in the gathering room when a woman and man arrive.  They have chocolates for someone, but they decide to share with you and sit down and chat with you while they must be waiting for someone else.  Oh wait, they look familiar now, when did my daughter get so old?  She used to be the little blondie running around the farm and now she’s married to this funny man?  Why can’t you remember?  How could you forget so many years and so many memories, but you know it’s her, she looks like your daughter and keeps calling you Mom.

Visiting with more family and enjoying cookies. 2012
Holding baby me. 1987
First great-grand-baby. 2005
Second great-grand-baby and a wedding. 2007
Anniversary visit.  2008
Thanksgiving Day. 2008
          Your daughter is here with her funny husband!  And look, they brought your grandkids.  You haven’t seen them since they were babies and now they are all grown up and having babies of their own.  How did you miss so much time?  Why didn't they ever come to visit?  You are leaving this strange place with them, finally, maybe you will get to go back home.  You and your husband are now surrounded by family, so much family you haven’t seen in years.  They say you've been married for 50 years to your bossy husband.  How is that possible?  You get cake, and everyone wants to talk to you but they make no sense.  They are sharing all these stories about people you don’t remember, should you remember them?  Everyone keeps saying: remember, remember, but it doesn't help.  You can’t remember.  Why can’t you remember?  You lock yourself in the bathroom; you are tired of being asked to remember.  It’s just not possible but you don’t know why.  You are scared.  What is happening to you?

The beginning of the party was great, then came time to chat with everyone. 2009

          You wish the bossy man would just leave you alone.

          The doctor comes.  He says he is going to try a new medicine.  For what?  For the pain?

Celebrating the new year. 2010
Got a smile! 2010
Three generations. 2011

          Your daughter is here, and she brought her daughter with her.  You haven’t seen them in forever!  Your daughter speaks with your husband when you notice the sparkling ring on your granddaughter’s hand.  Oh she’s going to be married!  You grab her hand to get a closer look and you just can’t stop the excitement and joy from pouring out of you.  You gush and you want to know everything.  Who is the lucky guy?  She takes down a picture frame full of several pictures and points at a smiling man in one picture standing next to her.  They look happy.  She tells you he is a good man and that she is a very lucky girl to have him.  You couldn't be happier for her!  What does her mom think about it all?  Oh she is excited too.  When will the wedding be?  May or June.  Can you come to it?  She said yes, oh you wouldn't miss it for the world!  You tell her you will be there with bells on!  Will it be a white wedding?  When will the wedding be?  Can you come to the wedding?  Yes you can!  You will be there with bells on!  You are just so excited and happy for her; you can’t stop gushing.  She tells you about a trip she took.  Your husband comes over to ask about the wedding while your daughter leaves for a moment.  When will the wedding be?  Are you invited?  Yes!  You will be there with bells on!  She wants a picture with you, but it’s always been your trick to not smile in pictures claiming you will break the camera, so you keep up the running joke and don’t smile.  She requests another picture and by now you are fighting away the laughter.  She shows you the picture and you are appalled.  Who is the ugly old woman in the picture?  Is that really you?  You won’t smile for any more pictures; maybe you really will break the camera.  It is time for them to go.  You wish they would stay.  But you will see them again at the wedding.  You will be there with bells on! 
~9/11/2013

Trying her hardest not to smile but too excited about the news. 2013

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Our First Road Trip: Redwood National and State Parks


          This morning, we hear about Ebola in Texas as a couple talk about it over breakfast.  Not too worried about that, we eat our baked goods, yogurt, and waffle, pack up, and head to Shelton's to get our oil changed.  We make it just in time before they take a lunch break, lucky.  The drive into the park is full of all sorts of coniferous trees, so much green.  D picks out the places to see today.  The park is too large for me to narrow down the options; I just want to see some big trees. 




          Our first stop is the visitor center to pick up a map.  Behind the center lies a beach with large logs washed ashore and tsunami and sneaker wave warnings.  We skip some rocks into the ocean, take pictures of the amazing off-shore rocks, and head to our first trail. 


          The Lady Bird Johnson Trail is a short loop among the redwoods.  Trees over 100 feet tall tower above us.  They are so abundant that most of the trail is in complete shadow due to their massive trunks blocking the afternoon sun.  Several redwoods have been burned hollow but continue to live and grow.  Dead stumps stand taller than most of the trees in my backyard.  We feel as though Jurassic Park should have been filmed here.  After a happy walk and pictures of us hugging a very large redwood we move on to the next trail to see Trillium Falls





          Elk are napping beside the road as we drive to the trail head at Elk Meadow.  At a safe spot off the road and away from the elk we stop to watch as the stragglers catch up and cautiously cross the road, stopping traffic.  A fed up semi driver decides to inch through the road when the elk look like they're stuck trying to decide whether or not to cross.  Finally the last three or four cross and traffic can move again.  We turn into the meadow and aren't surprised to find it empty since all the elk just left.


          Tall yellow-leafed birch surround the parking lot and behind them hide an ancient world.  A rabbit crosses our path just as we turn right off the gravel path and onto a path no wider than a deer run.  Once engulfed in the redwood forest the path widens again.  We half expect to see velociraptors stalking us from behind the fallen trunks.  Ferns complete the scene of towering trees, moss hanging from branches, shadows rarely letting a ray of sunlight through, and a rich smell of pine everywhere.




          It is a short hike to the Trillium Falls, and it looks a lot like what we're used to seeing in Illinois, except of course for being surrounded by giant redwoods in a prehistoric setting.   We admire the view and our surroundings a while before continuing up the path.


          We walk quietly as I think about our luck at seeing bears at both the other parks and now elk at this park when something darts from my feet onto a stump.  A red-orange-brown frog the size of my palm keeps and eye on us and pretends we can't see it as we bend closer for a better look.  We've never seen a frog like this guy before, and it is beautiful.  It is very patient as I take my pictures inching closer and closer, but when I put the camera over his head, that's the last straw, and it hops further away.  Excited to find a frog we move on.


          It isn't long before more movement catches my eye, but this time it is a small green frog trying to avoid being tread upon.  This one also poses for photos, hoping I'm a National Geographic photographer and that it'll end up on a magazine cover.  Sorry little guy, but I'll put you in my blog instead!  Not quite as far-reaching or prestigious.


          The trail continues winding up and down the sides of the mountain, sometimes following the path made by fallen trunks wider than we are tall.  We get to study the root systems of several downed trees and give up on counting rings of split trunks.  These trees are very old, and we'd love to know more.  When did this dead tree start to grow, when and how did it die and fall, how long has it been rotting here?  Redwoods can be thousands of years old, so if you find a dead one that was thousands of years old and has been lying here for a while, just how long has this organism been on Earth total?


          The hike has been going on for longer than we expected now and rustling noises are starting to spook us.  It is around four in the afternoon and the trees make it seem like seven with all the excessive shadow.  We see a few more frogs but some rustling noises don't have a clear owner.  I start hoping we won't see any bears today.  The sound of traffic excites us because that means we're getting closer to civilization but more and more bends take us further from their sounds.  It is when I smell elk as strongly as you smell the animals in a petting zoo that we both get really nervous.  Elk poo is all over the path, too.  D takes the lead and speeds up our pace with the hopes of getting out of here safely.


          Right now is breeding season for elk and the males are rather dangerous as they defend their harem from outsiders.  The last thing we want to do is run into a defensive elk.  The smell begins to fade as we find a grassy drive that must be for the park rangers and we are so glad to be out of the woods and to have a better view of our surroundings.  We make it back to the car and glad to be done.  That was a fantastic hike and we would definitely do it again, but when you don't know where the end of the path is and you start fearing for your safety, even the most beautiful hike can become a haunted trail.


          The elk are now in their meadow and the male sounds his high-pitched trumpet to let others know that this is his territory and these are his girls.  I wonder if our trail lead behind that section of the meadow and that is why the smell was so strong.  With other trails being on our "To See When We Return" list we make our last stop at a lily pond and take a short hike to a lookout with an ocean view. 


          Two kids chase a young goose as D and I head to the trail.  It is a short hike with lots of trees, birds, and flowers.  The ocean opens up before us and once again we're treated with a sunset over the ocean.  A beach lies to the north and we both want one last chance to play in the water before we head inland.


          The waves here are the largest we've seen and they go high up on the beach as they crash in.  A lone surfer is trying to catch some waves while we chase the water down the beach and sprint away from the waves back up the beach.  More often than not they catch us this time and our legs are dotted with sand up to our shorts.  The sand here sinks a few inches beneath our feet which slows our run, but maybe we also want to get caught by the cold waves.


          After we've had our fill and the sun has set we dry our legs off and start our route north to Eugene, OR.  Our last stop in California is Perlita's Mexican Food for dinner.  D gets a burrito and I get the enchilada/tamale plate with rice and beans.  The chips and salsa they brought us were gone before our food arrived and that is a first.  Despite the spice our hungry tummies continue through our plates until all the food is gone.  The food is all fantastic and we're sure the price was right for that satisfaction.  Another perfect end to a very fun day.


Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Our First Road Trip: Driving Day-San Francisco, In-N-Out, Stinson Beach

No road trip is complete without a selfie of the Civic that made this trip possible.

          We leave the Sunrise Inn, its Christmas lights, and delicious peach crepes behind to drop off our Charter equipment then head north toward San Francisco.  The drive reveals orchards, large plains with mountains not even seen in some directions, but nearing Oakland we find ourselves among hills and wind turbines.  We decide to take a potty break before entering San Francisco in case finding a bathroom is a pain, but apparently Oakland is the very last place you should ever try to find a public bathroom.  After driving around and trying a gas station and KFC a gelato shop owner points me in the direction of the library where a public bathroom stands in the park.  Pigeons, geese, and homeless men keep me company on this short trip.  No longer incredibly uncomfortable from breakfast's beverages we head toward I-80 for the first time since we left home.  

The sad little public restroom.
Oakland Bay Bridge heading into Pleasure Island.
          We cross the double suspension Oakland Bay Bridge after paying a $4 toll, cut through Pleasure Island's tunnels, and enter San Francisco.  Looking for Fisherman's Wharf we drive along the piers for a while.  If we'd found the right lot we could have gotten our hour of parking free, but instead we pay at a local lot head to Pier 39.  


          The area is clearly made for tourists as it is full of gimmicky shops and restaurants.  We stay out of that part and head along the side of the pier to find where all the seals are resting on floating docks in their own area.  Some just lie there lazily, some stand sentry watching over all, and others serenade us with the beautiful seal song.  Seagulls perch on top of logs standing in the water and I am reminded of, "Mine, mine, mine."  


          Looking north we see Alcatraz, west is the red Golden Gate Bridge, and all over is the beautiful bay.  We snap away and are even lucky enough to be treated to a V-22 Osprey tilt-rotor aircraft.  D was really excited about that.  I pick up a couple quick souvenirs and we happily walk back to our car.  That was a fun quick side adventure.  


          Over the Golden Gate we go in hunt of our last In-N-Out for the year.  We are lucky enough to get to actually dine inside it since outside of LA they have proper eateries with seating and everything.  We order our double-doubles, animal fries, and shakes.  It is all delicious and will be sorely missed as we head east.  


          The last leg of the drive is along Highway 1, the Pacific Coast Highway for beautiful sunset views of the ocean.  We make it a few miles and see a beach.  After sharing excited glances we pull off and park in the mostly empty lot.  Stinson Beach is not empty even though it is getting late.  Happily we head toward sand, barefoot with shorts and rolled up pant legs on unashamedly revealing four hairy legs.  For a while we walk along the beach toward the sun collecting sand dollars and hunting for little crabs.  Occasionally I see seal heads poking out of the water and I hope that they don't get bumped by the surfers as they ride to shore.  


          Watching the waves roll in and out we realize some of the best sand dollars might be further toward the water.  We brave the waves and follow them as they recede then run back up the beach before the large ocean waves can catch us.  We are able to find some more complete sand dollars this way.  My damp pocket is soon nearly full, so we stop collecting and start just running up and down the beach with the waves, laughing when we're too slow and the waves catch our ankles.  D and I play this way for a while until the sun has set and we're reading to move on.  


          After washing the sand and salt off our legs and arms we decide to discontinue the drive on the PCH and take the regular freeway instead.  It is so dark that we won't be able to enjoy the scenery anyway and we don't feel like spending more hours winding along the cliffs in the dark.  As we reach northern California the trees become noticeably taller and wider again.  I wonder if these are the redwoods.  There is a scenic route we could take but it is very late and we need sleep.  Luckily our route still passes through many of these tall trees and I lean forward to look up, but the darkness prevents me from seeing their tops.  These are really tall trees!  


          Suddenly I hear, "Uhhh, Czarina...?"  Afraid that something scary happened I look over and am relieved to see that we just need an oil change.  Ok, not that relieved, we've been driving through the mountains a lot and I'm not sure how well my little Civic has enjoyed that, so we decide to get the oil change first thing in the morning.  At least there wasn't a bear on the road or a tree falling on us.  The last bit of excitement aside from dodging dead deer in the road is spotting something that may be a mountain lion along the road.  It appears to be the right shape, size, and color, but since it's so dark I can't be sure it isn't just a really unusual rock.  We make it to The Redwood Inn and the man behind the desk suggests an oil change location for us.  We thank him and head to bed, exhausted but happy.

Sadly I have a piece of lint stuck between my lenses so go ahead and play the "Find the Blur" game.